Business Victim: 37 Ways To Change

Why does it always rain on me? This is one of the most important pieces I have written.

Why does it always rain on me? This is one of the most important pieces I have written. It is relevant for everyone I know and those I have yet to meet. To some degree, every one of us has been a victim. Why does it always rain on me?  Is it because I lied when I was seventeen?  Travis – Why Does It Always Rain On Me?

Mario Balotelli has admitted there were many reasons for printing 'Why Always Me?' on his hidden shirt and revealing it after scoring against Manchester United a few years ago. 'I did it for many reasons,' said Balotelli. 'But I’ll leave it for other people to figure out what it means. I’m sure people can work it out.' I think we all can imagine the internal monologue. The most important thing to remember in business (and your personal life) is that it is not the conditions that determine your success or destiny. It is your decisions. In life as well as in business playing the victims determined by the same basic internal programme.

More than anything else, I believe it’s our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny. – Tony Robbins

We have the power to change our lives with our decisions. We can chose to do something stupid or something amazing. The truth is, though, when we play the victim, we are actually making partial victims of the people around us. We really can chose to do something amazing and inspirational. It doesn’t matter where we are, or where we think we are. It is in the amazing power of our decisions that we generate our futures and shape our destiny.

If you think your life and it’s conditions are holding you back, whatever seems to be preventing you from reaching your full potential is more likely your decisions (or lack thereof) than your circumstances. What’s your excuse? More importantly, when will you decide to stop hiding behind your excuses and face your destiny? Decisions, not your conditions, will shape your life moving forward. If your decision is to do nothing, that decision, not your conditions, will define your life.

You are not a victim. No matter what you have been through, you're still here. You may have been challenged, hurt, betrayed, beaten, and discouraged, but nothing has defeated you. You are still here! You have been delayed but not denied. You are not a victim, you are a victor. You have a history of victory.

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

So here are my 37 ways to stop being a victim and be amazing:

Read the BAED Card Everyday [Be Amazing Every Day]: Whatever you say to yourself in the morning, it will most likely come true during the day. Why not taking advantage of it? Look at you BAED and say it to yourself first thing in the morning. Is that simple.
Exude Passion: Don’t let your rational mind stand in the way of your passion. If you found, or at least felt, even occasionally, something that thrills you, you’re there. You don’t need a confirmation on this from anybody. Go with your passion.
Accept Your Mistakes: You’re human. We, humans, are making mistakes. Accept what you did wrong and try to do better next time. No need to punish yourself forever. In fact, accepting your mistakes is the only way to make them disappear.
Action not inaction, decisions decide your destiny: Choose wisely, and then act. A decision without action isn’t really a decision. What will you do right now to step forward and claim your destiny?
Self Discipline: Don’t wait for other people to impose discipline on you. Start early. Create your own discipline. Although it sounds a little bit harsh, self discipline is a facilitator for many things in your life. It’s hard to get but great to have.
Keep A Journal: Write down you feelings, your ideas, your goals, your own activity. Journaling is by far one of the most useful things I’ve done to change my life for the best. It works in such a silent, yet effective way. Just do it for yourself.
Learn To Take Risks: Your life may be so boring and fade because you made it like this? When was the last time your tried something really difficult? When was the last time you challenged the odds doing something risky?
Change Your Work Space: Clean up your desk. Re-arrange furniture. Add some colour to that space. Make the place where you work really enjoyable. So enjoyable that work there won’t be perceived as work anymore. It will be something you love to do. Work on a boat with a view of the Thames.
Mediate and Seek Resolution: Rather than disagree, fight and argue. We have this mindset of competition which makes constantly arguing over things. Well, stop that. You don’t have to force yourself into agreement, if it’s not the case, just trying to find some reasons will be enough.
Pay Yourself First: You can’t give something if you don’t have it. You can’t spread light onto others if you don’t have light from within. You can’t give wealth to others if you don’t have it for yourself first. Make yourself a service and pay yourself first.
Wake Up Early: This is not a habit, this is a lifestyle choice you must make now. Don’t just wake up early without a purpose. Be early. Be there before others. Look for opportunities and embrace them. Waking up early means keeping your eye open to every available opportunity.
Your Focus is Everything: Your focus is in fact your reality. Use it wisely. Train it constantly for it will enhance your reality in ways you never imagined. Keep your focus sharp as a razor blade and be prepared to experience life in fantastic shapes and colours.
Be Better, Not Perfect: Striving too much for perfection will ruin your life. It will wipe out all those little imperfections which are making you wonderfully human. Being better, on the other side, is rewarding. Look back at the yesterday you and just say: I am better!
Stop Self Sabotage: You’ll be surprised by how much of a burden you can be to yourself. You are literally self sabotaging. Most of the time, unconsciously. If you have a long history of failure behind, that could mean you’ve become your worst enemy. Just Stop It.
Love Your Life: Maybe life wasn’t fair with you. Yes, I know, I’ve been there: life is never fair. But it’s fantastic. It’s unique, unrepeatable, one of a kind, beautiful, simple, challenging, sweet, hard… Just take a step back and find reasons to love your life.
Stop Wasting Your Super Power: Are you doing something that you think you shouldn’t be doing right now? Well, that’s wasted power. That’s meaningless stuff promoted to the honor of being a part of your life. How long are you going to approve this? Why are you wasting your super power?
Learn To Ignore: I think they should be teaching this in all schools. We’re so focused on so many topics and think we have to do so many stuff, that our life is literally clogged with stuff. It’s good to do stuff, but learning to ignore stuff is much better.
Recycle Your Aggression: Don’t throw it away, recycle it! Use it for something you really want! Call out those wild forces inside of you and put them to work. Aggression is part of you, so don’t try to reject it, because it will only grow stronger.
Dissolve Negative Opinions: Whatever you think you may do, it’s half of what you can really do. And that’s because you have so many negative opinions about yourself. You can solve them. Just accept the fact that you have them and then start working on them.
Exercise: Have a shot of BDNF (Brain Derived Neurotrophic Factor).You don’t have to break the world record, or something. Just make sure you exercise constantly. It will make your body healthier and your mind clearer. It’s also one of the simplest and most affordable ways to improve your life.
Forgive Somebody Today: Don’t hold that grudge for that past insult. Grudges are heavy and tend to make the take off for a new life a little bit difficult. The longer you hold that grudge, the more difficult the take off will be. Forgiveness will lift you off.
Make A Promise To Someone And Keep It: It doesn’t have to be something big. It doesn’t have to be for someone special. It doesn’t have to be difficult also. But it has to be a commitment to somebody. Just reach out, make a promise, keep it and then enjoy the feeling after.
Stop Being Judgmental: Be ethnographical.With others AND with you. Excessive criticism will kill your enthusiasm. And if you think this post is something you shouldn’t read in the first place, then, my friend, you really are judgmental. Lighten up. Accept life as it is.
Stop Watching The News: Television evolved a lot from the balanced news provider it was in the beginning up to the current manipulating tool. Just stop watching it for a week. And then for a month. Meanwhile, assess your psychological progress. You may be amazed.
Meditate Daily: It’s the easiest thing you can do. True mediation acts like a mind emptier, leaving you open to the whole flow of the sensations and experiences you would otherwise ignore. You don’t even need a complicated technique, meditate as you see fit. Slow rhythmic even breathing.
Say Something Nice To Somebody: Just like that. Out of the blue. Pick an unknown person and say something nice. After the initial surprise you’ll be amazed by the unmasked joy and gratitude they’re expressing. Admit it: you would like that too, isn’t it?
Reach out and Help Others: Reach out and try to see if you can help others. You don’t have to be a Samaritan, just go out there and support somebody. The biggest trick of helping is really surprising: although it seems you’re giving, you’re in fact receiving a lot more.
Random Act Of Kindness: Doesn’t have to be in the form of a nice compliment this time. You don’t even need to communicate it to the target person. Just do an incognito service to someone. See how this makes you feel. Think how many times you received that.
What People Want From You: What you can do is not always what people want from you. Clearing that confusion alone could bring an immense relief to your life. You don’t have to immediately provide what they’re wanting, but if you do, you may have some big surprises.
Stop Complaining Now: Complaining is like an open invitation for troubles. The more you complain about something, the more of that something you invite into your life. Cut it out. You don’t get any comfort out of complaining, only troubles.
Don’t Take It Personally: Never. Your world is shaped by your reaction to things, not by the things themselves. Don’t get upset, don’t think that somebody knows you enough to make right assumptions about you. Acknowledge and move on.
Learn to Laugh and Make People Laugh: This time is not about smiling. It’s about laughing. Don’t you ever miss another opportunity to laugh. Especially at yourself. The longer your laughing sessions, the shorter your misery ones. Looks like a nice deal, isn’t it?
Be Present Today: Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Go for what you can do today and leave yesterday behind for good. It’s not here anymore. And tomorrow doesn’t even exist yet, so why bother. All you have is today. Don’t waste it.
Learn to Enjoy: Like being in joy. Like giving permission to yourself to extract joy from any situation you’re in. Even if it’s bad. Or especially if it’s bad. Joy is everywhere, you just have to let it manifest through you. Don’t resist joy. Don’t reject it. Joy has not left the building.
Be Amazing Every Day and Make Your Own Rules: And stick with them. Go for what works for you, not the others. Go for what you want, not the others. Including me. Make your own system and be proud of it. You may upset some people in the process, but hey, that’s life.
Love Unconditionally: Totally. Constantly. Restlessly. Love is the only glue that keeps your life running. You were born out of love and you carry it deep down in your being. Love is never about the others, it’s about you.
No Regrets: Regretting something is another form of not accepting reality. What you can do about it now? It’s gone. It doesn’t exist anymore. Focus on what you can change: your present moment. Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Now. Live now.

Not playing the victim will take a lot of practice, but it’s worthy practice. I promise you, playing the victim is holding you back, hurting others and taking needed attention and resources away from real victims, those who are truly oppressed and can’t do anything about it.

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